When I was diagnosed with ADHD and autism, I felt like I had stepped into a new world—one where the rules and expectations suddenly made more sense but also felt overwhelming. What should I do next? How do I navigate this new understanding of myself?
Books became my lifeline. They helped me explore my neurodivergence, understand what it meant to unmask, and find practical strategies to thrive. In this post, I’m sharing five books that truly changed my life after my late diagnosis. Whether you’re newly diagnosed, self-diagnosing, or simply curious about neurodivergence, these resources can help you on your journey.
1. Divergent Mind by Jenara Nerenberg
If you’re at the very beginning of understanding neurodivergence, this is the perfect book to start with. Divergent Mindexplores the spectrum of neurodivergence, including ADHD and autism, and shines a spotlight on how research—particularly for women—has evolved only in recent years.
Jenara’s accessible writing style and deeply researched insights make this book a must-read for anyone trying to better understand themselves or the neurodivergent people in their life. It’s an excellent resource for explaining neurodivergence to others, especially if you’re navigating this journey with loved ones.
2. Self-Care for Autistic People by Dr. Megan Neff
If you’re looking for practical strategies to recharge, de-stress, and unmask, this book is invaluable. Every page is packed with quick, actionable tips to support your well-being as an autistic or ADHD person.
Dr. Neff addresses everything from sensory needs to managing executive function challenges. This book has been my go-to for moments when I need support, and its bullet-pointed advice is perfect for quick reference.
3. How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe
You may know Jessica McCabe from her incredible YouTube channel, but her book is equally amazing. Designed like a “cookbook for ADHD brains,” it’s full of actionable tips and strategies. You can dive into any section and find practical advice for understanding and managing ADHD.
For me, this book has been like a Bible for ADHD—it’s helped me explain my experiences to others and understand my own brain better.
4. Understanding Autism in Adults and Aging Adults by Theresa Regan
This book dives into the challenges and behaviors associated with autism, particularly for adults. While I found some sections less engaging, it’s a great resource for understanding terminology and practical approaches for older adults on the spectrum.
If you’re an older adult or supporting someone who is, this book offers helpful insights into navigating autism across different life stages.
5. Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price
This is the book for anyone exploring their autistic identity. Dr. Price provides an in-depth look at masking—why we do it, how to unmask, and what it means to live authentically.
Whether you’re self-diagnosing or have a formal diagnosis, this book is a compassionate and deeply insightful guide. It gave me countless “aha” moments, helping me understand myself better and communicate my needs to others. I recommend it to everyone in my life who wants to understand autism more deeply.
Final Thoughts:
These books were instrumental in helping me navigate life after my ADHD and autism diagnosis. They provided not only knowledge but also the validation I needed to better understand myself.
If you’re just starting your journey or looking for ways to support a neurodivergent loved one, I can’t recommend these resources enough.
Resources Mentioned:
🔗 Links to books mentioned:
📘 Divergent Mind by Jenara Nerenberg
📘 Self-Care for Autistic People by Dr. Megan Neff:
📘 How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe
📘 Understanding Autism in Adults by Theresa Regan
📘 Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price
For more insights and resources, check out my YouTube channel or listen to the full podcast episode!